Are the signs leading to a breakup really all that clear?

I have been going out with a guy for four months now. Recently his body language has changed. Sits with arms crossed, not as much PDA, walks in front of me and sex less often. He has told me before that he doesn't want to have sex unless we spend the night together. There were a few days in the week when that would happen at the start of our relationship. Now, it is only on the weekend. I asked him why he was putting off this vibe of not wanting to be with me. I pretty much just directly asked him why he won't have sex with me. He said that I was being insecure and not read into things. Is he lying? Is what he didn't say important. He didn't say, ';O. No. I don't want to leave you.'; But that would be telling me what I want to hear. Right? I should mention that he is unemployed and under a lot of stress. Could that be why the change? I don't want to bring it up again because then he would think I being insecure. He wants to break up. Right? I which there was a dictonary of man speak.Are the signs leading to a breakup really all that clear?
If he IS going to break up with you, there's certainly nothing you can do about it, especially if YOU haven't changed.





Chances are, the personality shift could be directly related to the fact that he's unemployed. This is putting a LOT of stress on him so it could explain everything going on.





So just let him be, and take whatever attention he gives you...for now. If, after he's gotten a new job and is settled in and is still acting the same way, you might want to explore the problem again. Right now however, just leave things be. Adding stress to the situation isn't going to fix it...it's just going to stress him out further.Are the signs leading to a breakup really all that clear?
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easy cop out. he's just not that into you.
He is probably just under alot of stress. Has he been through anything bad lately. If not......You two are probably just growing apart.
Well it's not that clear so I won't be able to give you a clear answer. But, body language does speak louder than words, so maybe he wants to break up. Or, it could be the stress of being unemployed that is affecting his sex drive. Don't assume anything.


I know not having a job can be very stressful - I'm going through the same thing %26amp; probably not in the mood as much either.
Ask him if he wants to break up. If he says no, accept that he wants to be with you and may just be mildly depressed! Maybe instead, you should decide if YOU want to be with him?
Sorry - but i don't think it sounds good. Normally body language is the first give-away and it However, if he has always been this way then, nothing changes.





I think what he said in relation to the sex thing was disrepctful on his part, i.e. him saying that you were insecure etc. Either he has issues with sex or he is one of those very clever guys that turns things round to avoid the subject.





But, being unemplyed makes a massive dent on self-esteem and may cause a sense of anger, which is misdirected......but when the tough gets going you got to rise to it.....if you both got a winner's attitude.
i dont think i usually get or give signs before a break up. its usually pretty...sudden.
he probably just has a lot on his mind right now %26amp; needs a little space %26amp; time to think. i dont think yall will break up .. but just try not to bring it up a lot bc it will annoy him %26amp; then it will make him not want you bc u never drop it.
i dont realy know but www.datemensite.co.uk might help if this does not come up google up hope it helps
be suportive of him if he is dealing with allot of stress don't make you another one of it you should be trying to release his stress not adding to the problem then when every thing comes down he will be back so when he comes home do not throw your problems to him this is a time he needs your friendship part in the relesion ship give him space and time
Well, you've only been with him for 4 months. So, it's hard to predict what is going wrong with the relationship.





Usually when a guy is putting you off for ANYTHING, he is most likely stressed. Or, you can be coming onto strong. Do you always want to have sex with him? Sometimes, a guy needs to relax. A guy doesn't ALWAYS constantly want to have sex. You think they do, but they have other things to do as well.





You make it sound like unless he doesn't have sex with you, he isn't with you. Don't make it seem like sex is going to keep the relationship alive. It can, but he may just need someone to talk to. When he says you're being insecure, it means that you're thinking too much about the fact that he WILL leave you. You have to be confident that you're man loves you (unless there are CLEAR signs he's cheating).





And, trust me. If a man wanted to break up with you, he'd break up with you. Guys don't hold onto relationships that they feel are ';pointless'; or ';not strong enough';. Some guys do talk out problems, but others don't like to because they don't like to feel weak or like the weaker person.





Give him some space! He needs it. There may be things you aren't seeing.





Good luck!
I would think he is under a lot of stress. He is probably feeling pretty crappy about himself...being out of work. What I would is be there for him but don't offer up to much. I know that may sound wrong, but I wouldn't give him as much PDA and I wouldn't initiate anything......let him come to you. The reason I say that is if you talk to him about this issue, he is going to think you are insecure....Then if things don't get better between the two of you then I would say we need to talk and I wouldn't worry about what he thought at that point because honestly he doesn't seem he is meeting your needs....and if that is the case you need to move into a more positive relationship that will meet your needs. (or find a way for the needs to start getting met) It does sound like he is under a lot of stress and if you just back off just a bit I bet you would find that he would come to you. I hope this helps....good luck to you.
I think so most of the time I can guess a day and I'm almost always right haha
I wish you had at least two senses, never mind a diccionary. The writing on the wall is in bold, size 72 font and flashing. Stop begging for love and attention, its so degrading to your ego. Fill yourself with pride and put an end to this yoyo relationship where he is the one pulling the string up and down, Don't you get dizzy?. Advise him to get himself a dog for company, you don't need his pity and excuses, you need a REAL MAN.....good luck
Yep, he's losing interest fast. You should try ignoring him for a little bit. Not completely, but make more plans with your friends, etc. His reaction to that will tell you best about what he is thinking.
sounds like things are going flat.......


could be winter blues.......
I went out with a boy for 2 years and had alllllllllllllllllllllllll of the signs. Since your not stupid you can tell when people just don't like you anymore. He might have something else brothering him on his mind, but its unlikely because I told myself that too, and we still broke up. guys can be big pussys and won't tell you.


Don't let him drag it on. Confront him about it becasue if you don't he'll put it off for awhile. If he doesn't want to talk about it is because he doesn't want to fight with you about it. doesn't mean he doesn't want to break up. Actions speak louder than words ALWAYS!!





Don't yell at him just camly say your concerns. You need healthy commuination in a realtionship. If he's not willing to talk you shouldn't be willing to stay or put up with his BS
Usually if he seems less interested, he probably is. For some reason a lot of men refuse to just come out and say this though. However, go with your gut instinct, I have found that it's usually right. You can either just come out and ask him what's going on. The key to getting a straight response however is to ask him straight forward. Asking him in a whiney way won't get you the answer you're looking for. He might still refuse to answer though. If this is the case, you can either deal with it until he leaves or you can just leave yourself.